Maybe he'll realize his mistake and come back to you. I'm also used to looking after him, cooking dinner etc, and get worried if I make a point to do something after work to give him space he will not eat because he can't be bothered cooking. But if he doesn't respond do I still follow up with text every few days or weeks letting him know I am still here? Give him his space and wait for him to reach out. I can't tell you enough how much it means to me knowing that I am not the only one feeling this way though. I hate myself most when I feel I am over-emotional, and so that's the last thing I want anyone to see, especially someone like my boyfriend. So we end up both being home and essentially ignoring each other which is creating tension at least I'm perceiving it that way.
Let me start out by saying that I love this man and I know he loves me right back, he just hasn't had the best way of showing that to me lately. I asked him if he was faking it when he held me and he got angry and said no, of course not. So, escape time, more medications no prescription this time, so orders them online instead. He has had financial struggles and lost his home and his car. Near the beginning of my relationship I broke things off with my boyfriend for the same reasons you've listed above. So go and live your life rosieroo, keep him by your side in your head and pretned he is watching.
And you're calling me a whore? Oh, I got myself a counsellor too. Getting occasional emails from you that are caring and respectful will probably help him even if he doesn't reply to them. I have never been in a situation like this, and it has really taken its toll on me, and I hope that I can find the strength to get myself out of this. The very best to you both. When he's not down, he's beautiful.
The burden of there being a possibility that my words could hurt them really stung bad and my coping mechanism was to distance myself. I encourage you to be supportive but it sounds like this whole thing is hurting you too. But, at some point one needs to stop letting the wounds of the past effect them so profoundly in the present. Thanks for reading, and feel better soon. But tell them you 'can't handle' rather than 'don't want' a relationship right now, to protect them and the relationship. Since he would not let me in to what was going on, I was ready to give up. I've read your responses to other people and always found you to be so helpful, so thank you again! Try not to be offended by this.
Sometimes depression comes hand-in-hand with anxiety. At some point, if he won't let you be part of his solution, if he won't fight for his own self, then you would be best just to leave him to hit his own rock bottom alone. Its like jumping down the rabbit hole and needing that darkness and quiet to just let the world go by in silence for awhile until you can start to see that small thread of light at the end of the tunnel. I feel unconditional love for him and I know deep down he loves me too. He asked me to give him this other wise there is not other option left except splitting up. But then other days come and I want to break down and cry, I wonder why do I love this person, and how much more can I take. The only thing I would add to the original post is the difference between clinical and situational depression.
Please note: family members of those with Bipolar are also welcome here. To be honest, even more now after hearing your latest update I am leaning further toward thinking you would just be much better off moving on for your own good and your son's. Almost like he has over exerted himself and scared himself so needs to retreat. I knew about her being bipolar and previous issues with drugs. Depression is a very deep and hopeless hole very often. I p ush forward each day by changing the way l looked at my husband's depression and my involvement with it. In the meantime, thank you for the information and thanks to everyone else for sharing their stories.
I would demand a 1 year commitment to getting effective therapy, and that means finding the right therapist, even if that means shopping around until finding one that helps. If she reaches out to you it's because she loves you and she feels a strong connection to you - in other words, she talks to you in spite of her depression. Hopefully it doesn't have to come to that. Then you can be there to help him. Everything seems to have snowballed and he can see no hope for the future and is so down on himself and feels guilty and worthless.
Again, if no matter what you do, no matter how long you try, he still will not trust that you are there to stay. If he refuses to ever get himself out of his funk, you can't just be content to let him drag you down with him. He told me he deserved to be alone and all he ever did was wreck peoples lives. Everyday I woke up and this is all I think about all day and all the time. Healthshare does not endorse, accept, or adopt the health care practitioners on our site, the content of any profiles nor the comments or discussions in the community forum.
Can you update your current situation with your boyfriend? Who am I to judge someone on how they deal with pain, but I wish there was something I could do, or if he would just reach out to me I could help in some way. When he did finally respond, they seemed cold, and emotionless. He's told me that he gets episodes of him just constantly feeling down, him not wanting to be around people, and wanting to just be in his room alone. I've said if we go 3 weeks of her not contacting me, I'll drop her a message to let her know I'm thinking of her. I think I have to give up soon. Sometimes he gets into these moods and lashes out, says mean and hurtful things and usually tries to push me away.