So if you are dating a cop or hope to, here are a few things to keep in mind so that your relationship is mutually fulfilling and supportive. It's hard for him to seperate his job from his life. These are just some of the things you sign up for when you say yes to marrying into law enforcement. See a cop may be dating you, but theya are married to their obligations as an officer. And you can't treat him like any other guy. I will be marrying my fiancé in a few months and I have to say that I have read this article several times. Cops see that all the time.
One that we have chosen to live through together. We have many people in our life, but very very very few that understand what a police family is. I applaud you for sharing your thoughts and a window into your life so that many others wont feel alone. Reading this article I realized that this job requires more support than I knew. Dating a cop will seem like a challenge at times, but can be extremely rewarding to one with the right personality.
I do think some wives do it for the glory of being married to a leo, however if they really thought about it. Your date should be a good driver — and probably knows all the traffic laws and loopholes in the area. I've never even considered dating a law enforcement officer before and I was one of those guilty of negative stereotypes about cops. . I don't know if the authority goes to their heads after a while, or it is strictly a inherited trait after dealing with what they do - but control over and in the relationship is the most common complaint. You absolutely have to be one of the most accommodating and loving and understanding person in the world.
There is no question that it takes a certain kind of person to be able to remain consistently patient, understanding, and selfless regardless of the circumstance. I didn't choose this job as we were married for 10 years prior to this, however I did choose to support my husband no matter what, so its important to be there for them and encourage them as this is often a thankless job!!! You take the good with the bad, however at the end of the day it all comes to the individual people and situation. Are you are so right about Holidays and weekends I've been on weekend-only-worker contract for the last year and a half. Sometimes he can't tell you, sometimes he won't tell you because he doesn't want to worry you, and then he ends up internalizing it. But I know I will be the wife who hopes and prays every day that her husband comes home without a scratch. Praising one does not equal the diminishing of others.
Only another Police wife can understand what your life entails. Navigating Holidays Holidays, special occasions, anniversaries, and birthdays are just days you must be prepared to work around. I am a smart woman and didn't even think about him being a cop being a problem. Out of over 20,000 views and over 100 comments to date, I have received only three negative comments, which I did not post, only because I do not want this to become a forum for debate or argument or have anything distract from the purpose of this article. To provide a better website experience, soapboxie. Our environment makes us attract to people in the field to those who understand.
Like I gotta take what I can get and not pressure him. He started when he was 20 in the police department he works for. You must remember, individual personalities also play a part in any relationship, but after meeting so many, so many women in relationships with them there tends to be 1 common denominator. The worst is that it's hard for him to leave his job at work. Mind you, some cops are amazing men.
Though police officers are heroes, they are human too and the last thing that you can be in a relationship with them is too needy or clingy. I believe I found one of the good ones But some. Spouses of cops say goodbye in person everyday, and go through that again, every day, instead of just once every 6 months to a year for military deployment. Dating a police officer means you are dating a man of high moral character who has a tendency towards altruism. At lest that's what I am to believe by reading this article. I wish I could send her a sympathy card.
I have been supporting his decision every single step of the way. He's an undercover narcotics officer and we have beenput through so much of what u wrote about and more!! I feel clearer having read this and that I can approach the session with more ideas how to ameliorate the rough edges and enhance the lovely ones. He started the academy after we had been together a year. Half of the time, you won't be able to reach them at work, if they work in a high crime-rate district. But I must say, they do exist.