In certain cases, some don't see the need to change the current situation because they were already behaving like a couple and that is where complacency sets in such as forgetting birthdays, no more surprises etc. I finally realized a couple of years ago that I was ready. Start doing that now, and you'll never stop who gets a house first? Is it the fairytale of living happily ever after and everything will be okay? He Can Only Talk about Weddings or Marriage While Being Sarcastic, Ironic or Snarky Every chance he got, my ex-boyfriend made cynical, snarky remarks about marriage. If after living together, starting her life and career over, he still didn't know, then deep down he did. Or perhaps one of the reasons that divorce rates are sky high is becausepeople don't wait for the right conditions? So be thankful for your disagreement, it means both of you are taking the question seriously. It can be a good move for a relationship that is already strong. We are beeches when we pull this stuff on guys but yet we find ourselves in the opposite receiving end of it.
I am 27 and been with my boyfriend for 4 years, through addiction recovery etc. When you truly want something, you do tend to stick to what you say. I'm the only one with a long-term girlfriend. If the fighting is over finances, family issues or bad habits, you definitely want to iron those issues out before you even think about marriage. I am with the love of my life, just at our two year anniversary, and have been so freaked out lately that a I'm going to blow it by freaking out on him again because he hasn't proposed, or b That he isn't proposing because he doesn't love me enough to make me his forever. There are many reasons why your man might be dragging his feet, but often it just comes down to the fact that women typically feel ready for marriage before most men. Lol, why should any capable man marry? Name changing, taxes, property divisions, etc.
This label will bring you nothing. I have tried to just enjoy my single life, yet I find myself resentful at him and the world. It is a tough one, but my faith has gotten me this far, and God will see me through. I actually disagree with Wendy on one thing — rather than string you along, he is being honest with you. I know people break off engagements all the time, but it feels more permanent to me.
I also was fine with a long engagement. I admitted how hurt I was by this and that I'm worried I will get resentful if we don't move things forward. Yes I agree that it seems easy to blow off mariage as not required to live, yet it is important to me. It bothers me that were not married yet because I knew since day one that I wanted to be his wife. To many men there is no advantage to being married once you have cohabited for several years. I know a girl yes I know her personally who has been with her boyfriend for over 10 years.
We got an apartment, and have finally got a contractor starting the job. If you've been together this long, you might as well have all the securities that being married brings. They've been there, done that, worn the T-shirt. How can I gently nudge him to propose? Do yourself and your boyfriend a favor and don't force it. If his friends have a little too much say so in your relationship, it's time for a serious talk about his priorities.
But, I don't think it is a good foundation for a break up, it actually seems very hypocritical to be wanting to marry someone so bad and then being able to end that same relationship over something like this. Had they not been living together, perhaps the marriage never would have happened. Take the actress Calista Flockhart, who recently wed Harrison Ford after an eight-year courtship. You want more from a relationship than this, and you have created some idea that marriage is the magic potion to fix all your problems. Who know's why he doesn't want to commit after 5 years together, but since you tried talking about it with him and got nowhere, you have two choices, you can either blindly go forward and likely get the same non-answer from him, or try talking about it again and see where it gets you. Providing a good home and fathering children, all become weapons against you in the hands of an angry woman. While there is a time and place to focus on a career or education, to constantly hear I'm not in a place to marry anyone right now is confusing and frustrating.
I know we are solid and love each other, but he just hasn't asked me. But, look at the circumstances. My elderly mother has had a stroke, and I wanted her to be around to see us get married. It is better to never be married then to be in a bad marriage. I thought that months of counseling after over five years together! Because at 30 and unmarried, I still like to think of myself as fairly young! I came across this thread when having similar issues. Anyways, I hope he does propose and things work out well, cause life is short and you're late 20's now but tomorrow, you'll wake up and be 38.
Marriage means nothing unless you are truly in a good relationship with love. Maybe he has gotten so comfortable with your living arrangement that he feels no need to buy the cow per se - he's getting the milk served to him every morning, afternoon and evening! She will never be completely happy and he will never know why. Trust me, you don't want to talk someone into wanting to marry you. It sounds to me like you have committed your entire life to him. No birthday cake, no card, no present.
And only two of the couples are still together. I just want to marry my best friend and have a happy life with my family, is that to much to ask for? There is love as a solo parent if you know how to choose the right person! Any words of advice for a depressed and hurt lady? Now, we have been living together for a year and a half. I turned 30 this year and always imagined myself married with kids by now. Old men are still called handsome and mature, women are just considered old! Have a talk with him and let him know your desire to be married. It doesn't mean we don't love each other. Don't judge based upon what other people are doing. Some men will put their relationship before their family and some will choose their family over their relationship.